How to Treat Others

One lesson I've tried to teach my children is to treat others the way that you want to be treated.  This is such a hard lesson for a child.  Their response to me is, "Well, they did this to me!  I will do the same thing to them!"  No...it's not how you are treated, but how you would want to be treated.  Very difficult.     I seem to say ad nauseum, "Is that how you would want to be treated?"  "Are you treating your brother/sister the way you would want to be treated."  One day, I hope they get it.   This is also a lesson I apply to myself.  Do I treat my husband the way I would want to be treated.  Do I say nice, kind words?  Am I respectful in my actions or do I criticize and lash out, disrespect, nag etc.  (I certainly want my husband to speak kindly to me, to respect me.)  When I'm at a restaurant and am waited on, am I demanding...do I under stand if things just aren't going well.  (I sure would want a customer to be nice if I was the waiter.)  I try to put myself in that persons shoes and treat them the way I would want to be treated.   Matthew 7:12  So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.